STARTING COUNSELLING

Starting counselling was one of the scariest things things I have ever done. I grew up thinking that talking about one’s struggles was a sign of weakness. I believed that if you let even the slightest bit of yourself show, things will go south. I didn’t trust anyone. I was 18 years old and away at College when I began  to realize that I needed help. I had lived a life of constant concealment that I almost forgot that I was human. It was scary trusting a stranger, but to this day I believe that going to counselling was one of the best things I have ever done for myself. I had to get to a place where  I  truly allowed myself to be seen by someone. I had to open up and finally learn who I was as a  person. This has really helped me learn how to open up in all of my other relationships as well. Concealing is not a healthy coping mechanism and it is important for us to let ourselves be seen by those that care about us, including ourselves. Counselling has been very beneficial to my growth and my healing and I am happy I took the risk of allowing myself to be seen.

I deserve to be seen for who I am

I am loveable

I am beautiful inside and out.

Thank you for reading.Until next time

 

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EMBRACE THE PROCESS OF GROWING

I have come to love the process of growing and the process of overcoming adversity. I read the book “Rising Strong” when I was going through a very difficult time and I continue to read it to this day whenever my resilience is being tested. The book really helps you “rise strong” from adversity. It teaches you that there is beauty in coming back from going through a difficult time. I also really like the title of the book because it shows that in rising, we come out of that particular situation stronger that we ever could have imagined. This book really helped me learn how to see my own strength because I tend to admire strength in other people, but not in myself. I have overcome a lot of things in my life and I will continue to overcome as I continue, but now I can look at myself in the mirror and look at those situations that have tested my resilience with pride. Now when I am going through a difficult time, instead of wallowing and feeling sorry for myself I read Brene Brown’s “rising strong and I am reminded of how strong I am and how strong we all truly are.

I am a conquerer

I am resilient

I am strong

Thank you for reading. Until next time.

 

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UNDERSTANDING YOURSELF

The most important person that you need understanding from is and always will be yourself. It is easy to look outward and want understanding from other people. I am trying to challenge this thought process of always looking to other people to understand me. Sometimes I feel like no one understands me. During times when I feel like this, I try not to suffer and I do something very different. I look to myself for the understanding that I wish I had from those around me. I dig deep into my heart and soul and figure out what I need at that particular time. Sometimes I need a love poem from myself, other times it is a nice treat or whatever else I feel like doing at that particular time. Turning inwards is my solution when I feel misunderstood because understanding ourselves is the most important thing we could ever do.

I am understanding myself

I deserve to understand myself

I love myself unconditionally

Thank you for reading.Until next time.

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THE PROBLEM IS HOW I SPEAK TO MYSELF

I recently had some terrible criticism the other day and even though I knew that it wasn’t true, it stung deeply. I spend the whole day ruminating over the comment and thinking about it over and over again. It really hurt. After some reflection, I realized that the comment hurt yes, but I kept ruminating over it because of some of the things that I have told myself in the past. I used to say some pretty unkind things to myself and there are some days today where I have to tell myself not to speak to myself that way. So, sometimes when someone speaks to me in the way that I used to speak to myself, it is a trigger for me. It reinforces some of the old thoughts that I used to have about myself. I start believing that since I believed it before, it mus be true because the other person has said it. Not everything that we think is true, and just because someone loves you doesn’t mean that their criticism is always true.

I am healing

I am recovering

I am growing

Thank you for reading.Until next time

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LOVE YOURSELF

I never used to understand why I always heard people say that love starts with self  because for many years I never had a good relationship with myself. I always thought that someone would enter my life and show me what love meant. This thinking stopped when I learned about self love.Self love is one of the hardest and most challenging things I have had to conquer. I had to get to a place where I realized that I was worth the hard work. I had to learn that I was worth being kind to myself and was quite deserving of it. I started by changing the way that I spoke to myself. I realized that I deserved to be spoken to the same way I speak to other people. I speak to other people with kindness and respect, so why shouldn’t I speak to myself in the exact same way? I am as much of a person as everyone else and I truly deserve to treat myself with love and respect. I stopped calling myself stupid,dumb,etc and starting focusing on my positive qualities. This is much easier said than done, don’t get me wrong for as the saying goes “old habits die hard”. It took a lot of time to stop speaking to myself this way and to be honest, I still struggle with it some days. I have days where I have to tell myself “please don’t speak to me like that” because I know that i don’t deserve to be spoken to with disrespect, especially from myself because I live in me and if I don’t have a healthy relationship with myself, how can I have a healthy relationship with other people. Everyday I make the commitment to love and truly honor who I am as a person.

I am in love with myself

I value myself

I am learning about myself each and everyday

Thank you for reading.Until next time.

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