THE PROBLEM IS HOW I SPEAK TO MYSELF

I recently had some terrible criticism the other day and even though I knew that it wasn’t true, it stung deeply. I spend the whole day ruminating over the comment and thinking about it over and over again. It really hurt. After some reflection, I realized that the comment hurt yes, but I kept ruminating over it because of some of the things that I have told myself in the past. I used to say some pretty unkind things to myself and there are some days today where I have to tell myself not to speak to myself that way. So, sometimes when someone speaks to me in the way that I used to speak to myself, it is a trigger for me. It reinforces some of the old thoughts that I used to have about myself. I start believing that since I believed it before, it mus be true because the other person has said it. Not everything that we think is true, and just because someone loves you doesn’t mean that their criticism is always true.

I am healing

I am recovering

I am growing

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COUNTING THE SMALL VICTORIES

I was having a conversation with a friend the other day and while we were talking, she mentioned the importance of acknowledging the small victories. She said that people have a tendency of focusing on the big victories and the  big victories are the only ones we consider to be accomplishments. We tend to forget the small steps that are going to help us get to where we need to be.Getting up in the morning,taking a shower,brushing your teeth, and exercising are all examples of things that are small victories that can take you very far.This is such a new perspective for me because i’m learning to acknowledge even the tiniest steps that I take towards my health,recovery,and being the best version of myself. Even if other people don’t always see these things as victories,they are victories to me and that is the most important thing. She also mentioned that it is important to celebrate how far you have come because that is where the growth lies. So thank you girl, I learned  new perspective.

I am learning

I am growing

I am exploring

Thank you for reading. Until next time.

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DON’T FORGET TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

It is very hard to take care of yourself in this go go go society that we live in. Everyone is much more focused on getting things done than making sure they have taken the time to take care of themselves. I used to be this way two until a year and a half ago. I neglected myself to the point where I finally cracked and experienced an episode of psychosis. I believed that everything needed to get done right away and that I could sleep and rest when those things got done. I lost sight of who I was and the world that we currently live in was no longer my reality. The episode of psychosis was my wake up call. I took time off of school and decided to spend time learning how to truly take care of myself. I developed ways that I learned how to cope with life in a while different way. I tossed away my philosophies and decided to adopt new ones. I learned that sleep was an important aspect of my day to day life. I also learned that I can’t do it all. There were some things that had to give up- late nights for example. Now that I am recovered and back in school, self-care is still a bit of a struggle for me. I am so used to being on the run that I sometimes forget that I need to take time to take care of myself because I matter too. I now have a schedule where I have to schedule in myself care so that I can actually take care of myself throughout the day. What are some of the struggles you face with taking care of yourself?

I matter

I love taking care of myself

I am growing each and everyday

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HEALING

I have said this before to my friends and family, but it is finally time to start healing and letting go. This is the year where I will continue on the lifelong journey of forgiving those that have hurt me and forgiving myself for the hurt that I have inflicted on others. It is time for me to move with my life and finally become the person that I am supposed to be. Forgiveness is essential to growth and I cannot continue to grow if I do not learn to forgive others. I have to become the best version of myself and this will begin when I learn how to love other unconditionally without any hatred in my soul. It is time for  me to let go so that I can finally become the best version of myself. I have to move on and allow myself to heal. This is going to be the hardest thing for me to achieve. I recognize that by forgiving others and myself, I will be doing what has been asked of me as a human being. I will also be taking care of myself and learning to move on with my life. It is time for me to be the best person that I can be. It is time for me to move on and let go. It is time for me to finally allow myself to have the peace of mind that I deserve.

I am learning

I am growing

I am healing

Thank you for reading. Until next time

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